r/beyondthebump - Long time contributing member receives permanent ban with no reason, seemingly for discussing the notion that the needs of the child should be taken into consideration rather than only the wants of the parent.

52    16 Mar 2021 14:27 by u/MaximilianKohler

Modmail: https://i.imgur.com/8pY7Hmu.png Censored comments: https://archive.vn/DMAD7 --- I've observed a fairly disturbing phenomenon on the major parenting subs - they've turned pregnancy and childbearing into an activity that is all about them *(the parents, particularly the mother)*. And the health, development, etc. of the child is irrelevant. It's like they're treating human beings as toys or pets, and anyone who comes close to pointing this out gets attacked and silenced. These kids have no one to defend/represent their needs, and the parents & mods in those subs make sure of it.

24 comments

19 u/Trod777 16 Mar 2021 17:17
Whats up with everyone hating kids now? First we had r/childfree and now parenting subs too? We're about to have a generation with all kinds of mental health issues
6 u/Cabbage_Vendor 17 Mar 2021 01:59
We already have two generations with serious mental health issues. Case in point, child-hating millenials.
4 u/MaximilianKohler [OP] 17 Mar 2021 09:14
I don't see any problem with /r/childfree. It's great that people who don't want children are choosing not to create them. What's problematic is people irresponsibly creating children when they lack the ability/desire to care for them properly and ensure they're healthy and well developed.
3 u/Trod777 17 Mar 2021 11:42
Yes, but theyre assholes about it. Look at the way they talk about children and mothers in that sub
-1 u/[deleted] 16 Mar 2021 21:25
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6 u/bigwinniestyle 16 Mar 2021 21:40
Sounds like your a cyberbully judging by the fact that you are following this person around from sub to sub. Enjoy your downvote. I'd give you more if I could.
-1 u/salemblack 17 Mar 2021 02:46
Followed them around? I'm confused, I barely ever post to reddit so no
0 u/officerwilde420 16 Mar 2021 21:55
Hope u get better man
-1 u/salemblack 17 Mar 2021 02:46
I'm good
3 u/xxb4xx [M] 16 Mar 2021 21:58
Be civil and have an adult discussion. Don't come here and be a toddler.
-1 u/salemblack 17 Mar 2021 02:46
Pardon me my lord
-9 u/The-Yar 16 Mar 2021 20:13
When you refuse to be honest about what this was really about, it's hard to take you seriously.
4 u/MaximilianKohler [OP] 16 Mar 2021 22:17
Just because you're trying to distort it into what you want so you can easily attack it doesn't mean you're right.
-6 u/The-Yar 16 Mar 2021 23:55
say what
5 u/MaximilianKohler [OP] 17 Mar 2021 00:01
Look up straw man fallacy if you need.
1 u/The-Yar 17 Mar 2021 14:06
I don't need. I already know it has absolutely nothing to do with any of this. Except for maybe you are using "needs of the child" as a strawman to hide what you were actually banned for.
1 u/MaximilianKohler [OP] 17 Mar 2021 22:34
I'm not hiding anything. I showed all the censored comments and the modmail. People like you project your own emotions, weaknesses, fears, and biases on other things/people, thus distorting everything into your narrow preconceptions.
1 u/The-Yar 17 Mar 2021 22:49
Dude you're trolling. You have strong feelings about breastfeeding, which has some decent science behind it, and you are obsessed with harassing mothers online about it. You can just say that.
0 u/MaximilianKohler [OP] 17 Mar 2021 22:51
I didn't harass anyone. Stop distorting things to fit your own prejudices.
1 u/The-Yar 17 Mar 2021 22:53
I don't have any prejudices related to this. You're weird.
0 u/MaximilianKohler [OP] 17 Mar 2021 23:29
If you seriously think that then you need to do some self-reflection to figure out what's causing you to distort something like this so badly.
1 u/The-Yar 17 Mar 2021 23:56
What am I distorting? Troll or weirdo, which is it? Or both?
3 u/brickwall95 17 Mar 2021 03:12
What is it about other than what OP clearly stated? Would you care to elaborate?
2 u/The-Yar 17 Mar 2021 14:01
OP is big on breastfeeding and goes after anyone who seems to be talking about not breastfeeding their child. He/she should have the courage to say that's what the ban was for, rather than trying to hide it behind an argument.