I thought I was pretty clear that the turn-on of non-consent (both the kink and actual rape) heavily involves having control/power over the other person It's very difficult to have sex with someone who's crying and cringing away from you and/or trying to cover themselves up (as per her description) if you don't get off on being able to force people to do things they don't want to do.

When people say it's about power/control, they're not denying that the rapist is getting their rocks off. But that's not the main point: if that's all they needed, you can get a (semi-)willing partner fairly easily (especially when you're as good-looking, wealthy and successful as Ronaldo is). Hell, if it's getting rough and slapping someone around that's your thing, that's not exactly an unusual kink (and again, most people just bring it up with varying degrees of awkwardness to the person they're fucking). But to actually carry it out on a truly unwilling person and get off on it there's a not-insignificant part of you that wants to be able to do shit to someone no matter what they say or how they try to stop you, to take what you want no matter what *they* want. Which is, without a doubt, a power thing. Source: am heavily into [consensual] non-consent and am well aware of why exactly it turns me on